1. Memahami tingkah laku orang lain. Caranya bersikaplah ramah tamah, lupakan diri sendiri, ingatlah kepada orang lain, perhatikan orang lain. Dalam tempo 2 bulan anda akan mendapatkan lebih banyak teman dengan memperhatikan orang lain dari pada anda hanya memperhatikan diri sendiri saja. Memperhatikan orang lain artinya bersikap ramah kepada mereka, mendengarkan pendapat mereka, tentang keluarga, tentang hobinya dan lain-lain.
2. Senyumlah dengan tulus kepada orang lain. Hal tersebut adalah suatu cara yang sederhana untuk mendapatkan kesan pertama yang baik.
3. Mengingat nama orang lain. Kalau ada orang lain yang tidak kenal dengan kit, tetapi ia hafal nama kita, memanggilnya dengan baik, ia juga mengetahui siapa kita. Pasti kita akan merasa senang. Napoleon seorang raja terkenal merasa sangat penting menghafal orang-orang yang di jumpainya, meskipun ia sibuk. Kalau ia lupa ia akan mengatakan "Maaf saya tidak begitu jelas mendengar nama Tuan". Jika nama itu di ulangi dan ternyata agak aneh ia bertanya lagi "Bagaimana mengejanya ?" Selama percakapan-percakapan yang di lakukan kemudian, ia berusaha menyebut nama itu beberapa kali.
4. Menjadi pendengar yang baik. Setiap orang ingin di dengar kata-katanya, tapi sedikit sekali orang yang suka mendengarkan orang lain. Kalau kita ingin punya sahabat, pandai-pandailah mendengarkan dia, dan berilah alasan dan kesempatan kepada orang lain supaya beebicara tentang dirinya sendiri.
5. Bagaimana caranya menarik simpati orang lain. Cara paling mudah menuju hati seseorang adalah menyilahkan dia berbicara tentang hal-hal yang paling di hargainya. Atau berbicaralah tentang hal-hal yang menarik perhatian orang yang anda hadapi.
6. Usahakanlah supaya orang-orang lain itu merasa bangga dan penting dan kagumilah dengan ikhlas.
7. Tidak menanyakan latar belakangnya. Sebab terkadang orang merasa tersinggung bila di tanya latar belakangnya. Dan di khawatirkan memilki latar belakang yang buruk.
8. Jangan berharap orang lain menjadi sahabat kita. Tapi berpikirlah bagaimana caranya kita menjadi sahabat yang baik buat orang lain. Lakukan dengan 1001 cara dan dengan cara-cara yang positif. Sebab bila kita terlalu berharap tapi tidak kesampaian maka yang timbul rasa sakit hati.
9. Bantu orang lain ketika sedang susah karena biasanya orang yang sedang kesusahan bila di tolong, maka pertolongan itu tidak akan pernah di lupakannya.
10. Jenguk teman yang sakit karena kedatangan kita sudah merupakan obat baginya.
Steps
- Say it. When you say the words "I Love You," do they carry it with them the desire to show someone you love them or do they carry it with them is it what you want to feel? And when you say it make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person
- Empathize. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, try to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are; and realize how they could also love you back just as well.
- Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.
- Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for loving's sake. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way.
- Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love.
How to love
Love is a strange thing. It can be the most amazing feeling in the world, or it can really hurt, but in the end love is something most, if not all of us, will face. While there are many different ways to define love and there are many different ways to love someone (even yourself), here is a general guide to loving.
Warnings
- You must love yourself before you can love another.
- There is always the risk of getting hurt, but that's part of letting yourself fully love and trust some one. Being hurt could be long-lasting and could hurt more than anything in the world.
- Realize what you have while you have it, and care for the person you trust.
- If something comes to an end, try to let go rather than holding on; it's for the best.
- The idea of love is fueled by childhood fantasies. The love shown in movies, as obtainable as it may be, is rare to say the least.
- You just may find your soul-mate sooner than you want to.
- If you feel any doubt of love your partner has for you, it is probably true. when you give and receive love 100%, you will have no doubt in your heart.
- Don't ask for love - you should receive love because your partner wants to give you love - not because you want it from your partner.
- Do not force love - it will come in good time, it will come.
